DIY Bride Tips
Planning our wedding was literally one of my most favorite things I have ever done. Being able to see so many people that we love travel just to be with us and experience our love in the things we like to do, brought us both so much joy. I still get goosebumps thinking about it. Even though it had it's battles, I would still do it all over again.
I hope you're excited about this new part of your life you're about to experience! It's not always going to be easy but taking a moment to gain clarity on what you envision and what it is that you truly want to feel on that day with your groom is most important. Doing that first will really help you move forward in the right direction.
Here are 8 tips to help you get started on your DIY Bride journey.
1. Do not let anyone tell you what your wedding is suppose to be, feel or look like. This day is for you and your groom to put on display what your love looks like and means to the both of you. You have just invited people to witness it.
2. Do not feel like you have to invite every person that ever said something or did something nice for you. If somebody comes to you and tells you what the etiquette is without you asking them, they are simply giving you their opinion and that is all it is.
3. Do not feel like you have to put everyone you were close to in your life in your wedding party. If you decide to have a wedding party, please focus on choosing people that have helped you grow to be the person you're here today. The people that you know will do their best to support you through doing a lot of this on your own. These people should make you feel good about what you decide to do. Let them be the people that help your mind expand not crouch in a corner.
If you decide to not have a bridal party, still make sure that you seek out a team of people to help you. Even though this will be done a lot on your own, you still will need people in your corner that can help you execute your vision.
4. Don't get caught up in traditions!! We had 5 different dances at my wedding. Is that a normal thing? Not sure. . . .however, it was important to me to have those moments with those people in my life. Those people were my groom, grandpa, dad, mom, and siblings. You know what??? My guests told me that was their favorite part!! You know what is right and what makes sense. Don't let what people think be your deciding factor of what is right or wrong for your day.
5. Do not freak out about the dress!! I went to 5 different stores to look for a dress style because I was pretty sure I was going to pay to get it made because I didn't want to spend a fortune. However, the dress I picked I had tried on the first time and didn't like the color. The second time I tried it on I liked the color and it was the very last dress I put on after two weekends of searching. I also decided to buy it instead of getting it made.
Dress shopping was super overwhelming but thats normal. I promise you, you will know when you know. Try to ignore everyone else telling you what to put on . Here is a tip inside of a tip. I went shopping with my bridesmaids, my mom and my grandma. I told them they could all choose one dress at every shop for me to try on, then sit the f down and shutup. That means I tried on 8 dresses total!!! This was actually fun for them and fun for me because I didn't have to think. Turns out. . . .mama knows best and she chose my dress. Trust the process
6. Don't sweat the small stuff until the big stuff is out of the way. Big meaning Venue, catering, DJ and photography. Simply because these things book very fare in advance, so you want to get those done and then enjoy putting together the small stuff.
7. Use Pinterest!! Make a board for your wedding and at first. . . .go nuts!! Don't limit yourself. Go with everything you are drawn to or that sounds like a good idea. Then edit as you go. Go back and pick your favorites, then delete the others. You will then be able to get a big picture and a more detailed vision of what is going on in your mind.
8. My last tip is to consider your groom. Ask him how he feels and what he thinks when it comes to the wedding planning. Does he want to be involved? Does he want to be the one to choose only certain things? Does he just want to show up? Whatever he decides to do accept and compromise, if you have to. This will help the process be smoother and it goes back to tip number one and it being about something for you two and you two alone.
Don't worry babe. You've got this!! Sounds cheesy, but listen to your heart. I would love to see what you come up with.